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Ninehigh - 10/1/13 at 08:37 AM

Any ideas? I'm not a "go to the pub" person and pretty much all the human interaction I get is one here so has anyone else tried any other methods?

I've tried dating websites they've been about as much help as locking myself in the boot of my car.


Peteff - 10/1/13 at 12:50 PM

Take your car out onto the street and start cleaning it, people will talk to you and you can talk back to them.


Staple balls - 10/1/13 at 01:07 PM

Thai bride, seriously.

Being a generally unsociable person (in person at least) I've always chatted to people online in some way or another, sometimes you just make friends in unexpected places, I've never seeked out relationships online, especially not through a dating site, they just seem a bit impersonal.

Saying that, about 2.5 years ago I got chatting to someone in a game (world of warcraft), found we shared interests, met after a while (and a little cajoling from mutual friends) been living together for 18 months or so, got engaged.


loggyboy - 10/1/13 at 01:16 PM

Met my wife through the internet (faceparty) in the early days of profile sites. Met a fair few girls which was ideal in my early 20s, but wouldnt want to do it now. off the internet ive only really found that work is good place to meet girls, but mainly because during my college days I worked at Mothercare, which has a 15:1 ratio of women to men workers! plenty of older 'experienced' ones and a fair few younger ones from school (which was ideal for me in my mid/late teens!)

Get a part time job somewhere with lots of women!


matt_gsxr - 10/1/13 at 01:42 PM

Evening class (but not welding!)


Ninehigh - 10/1/13 at 02:33 PM

All good ideas!

Although most often when I wash the car the only person who talks to me is my dad offering me to wash his car... Still I should wash it more often than I do

Hmm Thai bride.. I keep seeing adverts for Russian ones too, I wonder if the Thai ones give proof they're female before delivery

Part time job, I shall have to see if Mothercare are hiring!

If I met a lass on a welding course I think she'd be quite ideal


blakep82 - 10/1/13 at 03:20 PM

quote:
Originally posted by Ninehigh
If I met a lass on a welding course I think she'd be quite ideal


Theres one on mine, erm, nah.

Night time courses at college, languages perhaps. Chicas like spanish at the moment it seems.
Do go to the pub, even if just yourself. You'll soon start talking to someone, even blokes, build the social skills there, and they'll have frinds of various types.
Pub quiz night? A table full of birds might like the help on some questions?
During the summer, borrow a friends baby to take to the park (really!) Say you're looking after it for a friend. Or even a dog.
Do some volutary work somewhere. Somewhere the ladies will like someone caring ;-) but not old peoples home, wrong type of captive market...


Slimy38 - 10/1/13 at 03:28 PM

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Originally posted by blakep82

During the summer, borrow a friends baby to take to the park (really!) Say you're looking after it for a friend. Or even a dog.



Lots of friendly dog walkers out there, and you get some exercise as well.

Based on the original post I'm assuming you're after relationship, but it might be worth increasing your friendship circle first. While I'm not recommending a major lifestyle shift, it might still be worth looking at more male friends, which will increase your social interactions, which (hopefully) should give you more exposure to the fairer sex. A 'friend of a friend' is a pretty good way of meeting someone special.

Of course, I'm not sure how you'd actually find male friends (dating websites seem like a big no-no!)...


nick205 - 10/1/13 at 05:04 PM

Any hobbies or interests you could join a club for? Always easier to get started with a shared interest.


Ninehigh - 10/1/13 at 08:16 PM

quote:
Originally posted by nick205
Any hobbies or interests you could join a club for? Always easier to get started with a shared interest.


Now that sounds like a plan!


perksy - 10/1/13 at 09:56 PM

Borrow a Puppy, The Ladies like a man with a Puppy
Take a walk through the park and the ladies will be around you like flies around sh*t


Otherwise somewhere like the local gym or better still the Bar at the local gym

[Edited on 10/1/13 by perksy]


bi22le - 10/1/13 at 11:26 PM

A lot of my friends have met their other halves at weddings or engagement parties.

I think clubs are a good idea. Again, you have a common interest.

Some good advice peeps, im supprise!!


Mr Whippy - 11/1/13 at 12:07 AM

I met my wife through a dating agency, we'd have simply never crossed paths otherwise as our lifestyles were totally different

We were the first and only people we actually dated from the site but got on like a house on fire from day one, that was 5 years ago, now expecting our first child in 3 months time best decision I ever made was joining that site and I totally recommend it to anyone who is serious

I often tell people how we met only to find we were not alone either, go for it

4D baby scan tomorrow wonder what it is???? is it going to be a pink or blue toylander


Mr Whippy - 11/1/13 at 12:08 AM

quote:
Originally posted by Ninehigh
quote:
Originally posted by nick205
Any hobbies or interests you could join a club for? Always easier to get started with a shared interest.


Now that sounds like a plan!


yeah take up knitting


tegwin - 11/1/13 at 02:24 PM

Read... digest.. and do!



[Edited on 11/1/13 by tegwin]


Ninehigh - 11/1/13 at 07:14 PM

Wwwow!


Peteff - 11/1/13 at 07:24 PM

Join a yoga class or aerobics, fit women go to them


billy - 11/1/13 at 07:30 PM

You could hang out in the local public toilets? Bound to be a glory hole there to keep you amused


woodster - 18/1/13 at 04:43 PM

quote:
Originally posted by matt_gsxr
Evening class (but not welding!)


Class lol


RK - 21/1/13 at 12:43 AM

I would never quit a job, even though I hated it, until I got another first. This idea that the grass is greener elsewhere is not always true, and I hate it when it is suggested that you should just "follow your dream". Yeah, well, eating is good too.

I've moved about quite a bit, and I can also attest that night classes are good for meeting people. I even take them on holidays, most recently in France. We met 7 other people in a local language class taught by a college professor (not French, although it was taught in French)! These little esoteric groups are always happy to have interested people, and everyone has a story to tell as to how they got there.


Macbeast - 21/1/13 at 08:49 AM

Community choirs are good if you like music. You don't have to be a good singer and they don't usually ask you to audition. There are usually at least twice as many women ( of all ages ) as men and there's plenty of opportunity to socialise during the break and perhaps afterwards in the pub. Some ladies like a lift home after practices, especially these dark nights.
One of the sopranos has me on a promise to go round to hers for tea once the spring term gets under way

[Edited on 21/1/13 by Macbeast]


JoelP - 21/1/13 at 09:08 AM

When we had our first baby 4 years ago, me and sue signed up to do NCT parenting classes. The other couples we met there turned out to be some of our best friends. I guess we got lucky but every one of them is funny and interesting, we still do regular nights out, even bloody group holidays! You can imagine the chaos we have with 10 adults and 10 kids

Im not suggesting you need to have a kid, just that you can meet good people in the most unlikely places, and you'd never know what you were missing if you didnt do it.


Fred W B - 21/1/13 at 11:15 AM

Offer to work backstage or on prop making for the local AmDram society. As above usually a big shortage of practicle (straigh!) men

Cheers

Fred W B


mcerd1 - 21/1/13 at 12:00 PM

most couples I know met/got together when they wern't expecting it - including me!

turned out that one of my best mates big sisters had liked me since we first met (I din't have a clue, I thought she was just a mate)
eventually she gave up and made the first move more than 10 years later!
she's moving in with me in a few months time, as soon as my house is finished



you never know who you'll hit it off with, so just relax, have fun, make some more friends - even if you don't find anyone strait away some more friends/fun in your life is never going to hurt


RK - 21/1/13 at 01:52 PM

I know a dog has been suggested, but you don't actually have to get one, or borrow one from a friend, you can sign up with RSPCA as a dog walker. People are surprisingly just like dogs, once you get to know them, in a Pavlovian sort of way.


scudderfish - 21/1/13 at 04:12 PM

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Originally posted by RK
I know a dog has been suggested, but you don't actually have to get one, or borrow one from a friend, you can sign up with RSPCA as a dog walker. People are surprisingly just like dogs, once you get to know them, in a Pavlovian sort of way.


You make them drool with empty promises?